I explained that within that month was Halloween and he would miss all the parties and trick or treating. He was fine with that. I also explained that within that month was his birthday and he would not be able to have a party or get presents if we did things his way, he seemed fine with that as well. Sure am glad I'm his mom and not his kid.
I consulted several people on what to do and how to handle the punishment. I want it to fit the crime and I gotta say I think the crimes are pretty severe for a first grader. The people I respect the most in this area said that a month is appropriate — of course they are far away and not directly affected (ie: their kids are not going to be missing a playmate at the aforementioned parties). My teacher friend suggested I write up a contract clearly spelling out what is expected of him and what the consequences will be if he does not meet his contractual obligations. Also she suggested time off for good behavior so that he can have a birthday party, it is after all the final weekend of a month of punishment.
So I've settled on a punishment. I will write a contract and the punishment will be graduated with the most severe punishment occurring soonest, when the offenses are clearest in his mind. There will be the option for time off for good behavior so that he can still have his birthday party which we have been planning for a long time.
So now it's question time.
1. What is an appropriate punishment for cheating?
2. What is an appropriate punishment for growling at a teacher and upending a desk?
3. Have you ever had to cancel a holiday because of a child's behavior?